Studies show that bragging about yourself can result in more professional success. Here’s how to do it right.
When someone compliments you, is your automatic response anything like mine? “Really? I haven’t slept in days. It must be the lighting in here!” Or, when you’ve been patted on the back for a job well done, do you allow your team to take credit for what you personally did?
It’s not unusual…We also have a harder time bragging about our achievements, often because we think “doing all the right things” on the job should suffice to gain us recognition we deserve, according to a recent Catalyst report. Yet over and over, research shows that career advancement hinges on tooting our own horn.
Bottom line: We often underestimate, or underplay, our achievements. And it does us no good. Those who (subtly) boast the most are the ones who get promotions.
When balancing humility with confidence, I always think of this anecdote:
"Calm self-confidence is as far from conceit as the desire to earn a decent living is remote from greed.”
– Channing Pollock
You can probably be an even better collaborator and teammate with a healthy dose of confidence and security than you could be by selling yourself short. Get it, girls. You totally deserve it.
Gosh, one of my favorite pieces to read in years.
"My family thought I was nuts for being so openhearted. But compassion is wildly rewarding, if you learn to survive."
“I had to accept that contrary to my parents’ terror of looking bad, almost everybody worth his or her salt was a mess and had been an overly sensitive child. Almost everyone had at one time or another been exposed to the world as being flawed, and human. And that it was good, for the development of character and empathy, for the growth of the spirit. Periods in the wilderness or desert were not lost time. You might find life, wildflowers, fossils, sources of water.”
These are good. The 8 messages include “Take (good) risks,” “Self-efficacy over self-esteem,” and “Vulnerability is good.” Good things to think about for boys and girls.