This is an awesome op-ed in the NYT by Tara Mohr on the criticism women tend to face at work, why and how it can bother us so much, and how to make it all easier to handle.
I think it’s great information, and a great strategy to make work more enjoyable and to keep the focus somewhere great.
“76 percent of the negative feedback given to women included some kind of personality criticism, such as comments that the woman was “abrasive,” “judgmental” or “strident.” Only 2 percent of men’s critical reviews included negative personality comments.”
“Criticism stings for all of us, but women have been socialized to not rock the boat, to be, above all else, likable…What other people think and say about us matters, a lot.”
“In the context of these influences, what allows women to become free of concerns about the reactions they or their work will provoke? I’ve found that the fundamental shift for women happens when we internalize the fact that all substantive work brings both praise and criticism.”