"This humanity of woman, carried in her womb through all her suffering and humiliation, will come to light when she has stripped off the conventions of mere femaleness in the transformations of her outward status, and those men who do not yet feel it approaching will be astonished by it. Someday (and even now, especially in the countries of northern Europe, trustworthy signs are already speaking and shining), someday there will be girls and women whose name will no longer mean the mere opposite of the male, but something in itself, something that makes one think not of any complement and limit, but only of life and reality: the female human being." Rilke
I think it makes you a better woman and a better partner to be able to take care of yourself and your family financially on your own (if and when needed). Understanding estate planning is smart and empowering at any age. When you’re ready, get your estate and will together to send your emotional shit to the next generation in a good place.