"The girl and the woman, in their new, individual unfolding, will only in passing be imitators of male behavior and misbehavior and repeaters of male professions. After the uncertainty of such transitions, it will become obvious that women were going through the abundance and variation of those (often ridiculous) disguises just so that they could purify their own essential nature and wash out the deforming influences of the other sex. Women, in whom life lingers and dwells more immediately, more fruitfully, and more confidently, must surely have become riper and more human in their depths than light, easygoing man, who is not pulled down beneath the surface of life by the weight of any bodily fruit and who, arrogant and hasty, undervalues what he thinks he loves. This humanity of woman, carried in her womb through all her suffering and humiliation, will come to light when she has stripped off the conventions of mere femaleness in the transformations of her outward status, and those men who do not yet feel it approaching will be astonished by it. Someday (and even now, especially in the countries of northern Europe, trustworthy signs are already speaking and shining), someday there will be girls and women whose name will no longer mean the mere opposite of the male, but something in itself, something that makes one think not of any complement and limit, but only life and reality: the female human being." Rilke
“I like that I stick out. I was watching “Valentine’s Day” on the plane recently. I have a tiny part in that movie. I was watching all the women — Jessica Biel, and Emma Roberts, and Jennifer Garner and Julia Roberts. They are gorgeous women, and I don’t want to take anything away from them, but they all do have a very classical look, with a very thin nose. I’m watching this parade of these faces and then, boom, it was my face, and I was taken aback. I was like, “Oh, my nose is so big!” I have never in my life thought I had a big nose, but, well, there it was.
The first time I was on TV, on “Flight of the Conchords,” someone put up a YouTube clip and said, “You’re too ugly to be on TV.” And I was like, “That is exactly why it’s a good thing that I’m on TV.” - Kristen Schaal, goddess
I love reading about intelligent and civilized debate :) Cheers to the 14 women and 2 men from both sides of the aisle who are genuinely collaborating to find solutions to the problem of sexual violence and abuse in the military.
Until now, none of the major social networks have had women on their boards. Sheryl earned her spot after protests of Facebooks all-male board, and after her own request for the seat. Obvi this is way overdue.
Maybe these articles about the same idea (The Atlantic published the last notable one I am thinking of), are getting redundant? Why is “having it all” defined as career + family? Still, Slaughter makes good points. I say focus less on the idea of “having it all,” and more on the idea of being happy and fulfilled. Sacrifice the right things, and you may be able to be fulfilled without “having it all.”
Meryl on Hilary. Hilary’s speech after is really great too. See below.
I love Meryl’s opener about how women look so hard at one another. I think a lot about competition between women, why we are often hard on one another, how we need to support one another. But I think Meryl is right: when we look so hard at one another, one part of us really is looking for inspiration, for hints on how to do it better, and maybe, then, even for solidarity rather than contest.
I think everybody should know. This hidden history HIlary has. The story of her parallel agenda. The shadowed diplomacy, unheralded, uncelebrated, careful, constant work on behalf of women and girls that she has always conducted.
According to staffers, it’s the Founding Mothers themselves who are responsible. “Mentoring” can sometimes seem like a meaningless buzzword, particularly in a competitive news environment. But at NPR it’s serious. “This is how you get ahead in the media world—by helping each other out,” says Cornish, who is now, at 32, the network’s youngest anchor. “I would not be here if all those people did not take an interest in my career. That’s just the fact of it.”