"The girl and the woman, in their new, individual unfolding, will only in passing be imitators of male behavior and misbehavior and repeaters of male professions. After the uncertainty of such transitions, it will become obvious that women were going through the abundance and variation of those (often ridiculous) disguises just so that they could purify their own essential nature and wash out the deforming influences of the other sex. Women, in whom life lingers and dwells more immediately, more fruitfully, and more confidently, must surely have become riper and more human in their depths than light, easygoing man, who is not pulled down beneath the surface of life by the weight of any bodily fruit and who, arrogant and hasty, undervalues what he thinks he loves. This humanity of woman, carried in her womb through all her suffering and humiliation, will come to light when she has stripped off the conventions of mere femaleness in the transformations of her outward status, and those men who do not yet feel it approaching will be astonished by it. Someday (and even now, especially in the countries of northern Europe, trustworthy signs are already speaking and shining), someday there will be girls and women whose name will no longer mean the mere opposite of the male, but something in itself, something that makes one think not of any complement and limit, but only life and reality: the female human being." Rilke
"So my unsolicited advice to women in the workplace is this. When faced with sexism or ageism or lookism or even really aggressive Buddhism, ask yourself the following question: ‘Is this person in between me and what I want to do?’ If the answer is no, ignore it and move on. Your energy is better used doing your work and outpacing people that way. Then, when you’re in charge, don’t hire the people who were jerky to you."
This makes me so proud! Female editor for the NY Times, National Book Award, 1080 in the X-Games, Female Prez in Brazil, free birth control, a couple of Pulitzers, Oprah and Sheryl, Penelope Fey, and Adele. Read and watch them all and kvell.
The women of comedy vid is my favorite and made me tear up again in re-watching.
This woman is resilient, spunky, smart! The interview and footage of Gabby’s recovery made me cry. The overwhelming feeling of the video is inspiration: to be an amazing woman, to make an amazing marriage like the Giffords have, to be grateful, to be brave.
A year and a half ago I started writing a book that comes out today.
I am so terrified, you guys. Not because I don’t think the book is great-– which it really is, I swear-– but because it is the first thing I’ve ever done creatively that is 100% me. There hasn’t been a more…
I have always secretly wanted to stand on a stage and make people laugh. But I was more comfortable avoiding ever having to find out if it was something I could actually do. It’s so much easier to just imagine yourself headlining at The Laugh Factory than to take the first small step towards actually making that happen. And now that I did it and refrained from laying down on the stage and crying in a fetal position, which was what I feared I might do, now I feel like I could do anything. It might sound cliche, but it’s absolutely true. I feel like ten pounds have been lifted off my chest. The only difference between you and the people you admire is that they chose to make those first steps towards their dream. They put themselves out there.
"We’re dealing with a generation of girls that have their shit together like you’ve never seen before. These are young girls who are, like, on the internet, and they’re funnier than I was ever able to be at their age. They grew up knowing they were entitled to have a career, have a great boyfriend, or they don’t need a boyfriend. This is like a race of supergirls and the equivalent guys are just not up to the task and it’s a bummer."
Julie Klausner, WTF with Marc Maron, Episode 217 Live at the Bell House (via fatgirlinohio)
I love that people are quoting this, I just wish I didn’t say “like” so much. :(
When you don’t look like in a model in real life you cherish great photos of yourself. When I was on Facebook, approximately 1/3 of my life was untagging bad photos of myself and sending messages to their uploaders saying: “WTF, you guys? Put another grim photo of me on the internet and I will…
Obviously Zooey Deschanel is fabulous (though, see page 3 about women who disagree). This article is double fabulous because it’s so well-written (see, i.e., “Deschanel has a laugh like a rapid reverse hiccup.”) and so full of Zooey. Jada Yuan has also forced me to consider getting cable to watch “New Girl.”
“She, more than most of her indie-actress peers, seems to live it, too—less sardonically than sweetly—and the perception of her as a sort of standard-bearer for all things sincere and nostalgic (or mannered and twee, depending on your point of view) has made her a figure of both adoration and exasperation. She has a band, of course, a folk-rock duo with M. Ward. As half of She & Him, she sings Shirelles harmonies, plays piano and ukulele, and writes most of the songs—well enough that, as Pitchfork.com wrote in a stunned, positive review, she’s somehow avoided ‘a Hollywood archetype: the actor-turned-singer-turned-punchline.’ Online, she declares her love of board games, baking, and karaoke to the almost 600,000 followers of her super-sunny Twitter feed, @therealzooeyd, and this summer she started a humor and lifestyle website called HelloGiggles for ‘smart, independent, and creative females.’ Section headings include Cuteness and He Haw.”