"The girl and the woman, in their new, individual unfolding, will only in passing be imitators of male behavior and misbehavior and repeaters of male professions. After the uncertainty of such transitions, it will become obvious that women were going through the abundance and variation of those (often ridiculous) disguises just so that they could purify their own essential nature and wash out the deforming influences of the other sex. Women, in whom life lingers and dwells more immediately, more fruitfully, and more confidently, must surely have become riper and more human in their depths than light, easygoing man, who is not pulled down beneath the surface of life by the weight of any bodily fruit and who, arrogant and hasty, undervalues what he thinks he loves. This humanity of woman, carried in her womb through all her suffering and humiliation, will come to light when she has stripped off the conventions of mere femaleness in the transformations of her outward status, and those men who do not yet feel it approaching will be astonished by it. Someday (and even now, especially in the countries of northern Europe, trustworthy signs are already speaking and shining), someday there will be girls and women whose name will no longer mean the mere opposite of the male, but something in itself, something that makes one think not of any complement and limit, but only life and reality: the female human being." Rilke
Because women are encouraged to give more to relationships and and to others than they are to themselves. An antidote to being boy-crazy, relationship-obsessed, and too selfless.
Julia Sebutinde was elected to sit on the International Court of Justice for a 9 year term beginning in February, 2012. The ICJ is the main judiciary body associated with the UN. Justices on the ICJ are elected by the UN General Assembly and Security Counsel. Sebutinde is one of 3 female Justices (out of 15), and the first African woman to serve on the court.
"So my unsolicited advice to women in the workplace is this. When faced with sexism or ageism or lookism or even really aggressive Buddhism, ask yourself the following question: ‘Is this person in between me and what I want to do?’ If the answer is no, ignore it and move on. Your energy is better used doing your work and outpacing people that way. Then, when you’re in charge, don’t hire the people who were jerky to you."
This makes me so proud! Female editor for the NY Times, National Book Award, 1080 in the X-Games, Female Prez in Brazil, free birth control, a couple of Pulitzers, Oprah and Sheryl, Penelope Fey, and Adele. Read and watch them all and kvell.
The women of comedy vid is my favorite and made me tear up again in re-watching.
Tabitha Festo was a widow, an unemployed nurse, a mother of three, and apparently a badass living in her home in Kibera, Kenya in 2000. Tabitha approached UNC undergrad Rye Barcott asking for the equivalent of US$26, saying that with it she could make real change. Tabitha grew and sold vegetables to local woman, saved about US$130, and opened a medical clinic.
Read about the success of the medical clinic today on the link.
I think it makes you a better woman and a better partner to be able to take care of yourself and your family financially on your own (if and when needed). Understanding estate planning is smart and empowering at any age. When you’re ready, get your estate and will together to send your emotional shit to the next generation in a good place.