Get It, Girls

"The girl and the woman, in their new, individual unfolding, will only in passing be imitators of male behavior and misbehavior and repeaters of male professions. After the uncertainty of such transitions, it will become obvious that women were going through the abundance and variation of those (often ridiculous) disguises just so that they could purify their own essential nature and wash out the deforming influences of the other sex. Women, in whom life lingers and dwells more immediately, more fruitfully, and more confidently, must surely have become riper and more human in their depths than light, easygoing man, who is not pulled down beneath the surface of life by the weight of any bodily fruit and who, arrogant and hasty, undervalues what he thinks he loves. This humanity of woman, carried in her womb through all her suffering and humiliation, will come to light when she has stripped off the conventions of mere femaleness in the transformations of her outward status, and those men who do not yet feel it approaching will be astonished by it. Someday (and even now, especially in the countries of northern Europe, trustworthy signs are already speaking and shining), someday there will be girls and women whose name will no longer mean the mere opposite of the male, but something in itself, something that makes one think not of any complement and limit, but only life and reality: the female human being." Rilke

"With both Lena [Dunham] and Kristin [Wiig] … you do get the sense that they approach all of the work differently than men. The things that they’re writing about are different, but it’s hard to say what it is … because everyone’s looking for love, everyone’s looking to be happy, everyone wants to be grounded. There are specific neuroses to their projects that are not exactly how men are. There’s more of a vulnerability to how they go about their lives. … [T]hey’re all willing to not worry about being liked. They will expose themselves and show all of their pain and frustrations and desires, and we never have a moment where they think, ‘I’ll look weird doing that,’ or ‘That makes me look bad.’ They just want to expose the truth, which is what I always want. And being around them has made me want to do that more in my work."

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Judd Apatow on the different working attitudes of men and women (via nprfreshair)

Amen! Love this, Judd.

She’s singing this in front of Kanye and Emma Roberts and her peers and intimidating people in an intimidating space (the Boom Boom Room) and she just tears her chest open and let’s it out.

I think she’s nervous and a little self-conscious at the beginning. Finds the pain at around a minute, let’s it out at 1:45.

Also, it sounds like the crowd isn’t paying attention to her when she begins. When she hits her stride, they listen. By the end she’s clearly got them. I think women (or other underdogs) need to do this in life. Don’t wait for an invitation to speak up or join in. Start, and if your work is good, you’ll have them by the end.

Fucking get it, Flo.

The Bloggess' Brave Post on Depression

Honest, brave description of a bout with depression. 

And chances are that many of your friends, family and coworkers are dealing with things like this.  Things that are killing them a little inside.  Things that kill people who don’t get help.  Silent, bloody battles that end with secret victors who can’t celebrate without shame.  I hope that this post changes this somehow.  I hope that you feel safe enough to be honest about the things you are the most ashamed of.  I hope you have someone there telling you “It’s okay.  You’re still the same person to me.”

via @sarahsophief.

16th birthday trip to New Orleans. Breakfast.